Don’t Shy Away From Critical Conversations Anymore

By Jeff Earlywine


Have you ever felt deep down in your gut that you need to have a conversation with an employee, co-worker or even your spouse and you don’t know the words to say to keep it from going bad? You know what bad means – hurt feelings, yelling, or possibly sleeping on the couch? LOL What if you had a simple formula that will give you a better than average chance of nothing like that happening and a good feeling inside too?


Below are four very simple statements and/or questions that will help you have critical conversations regardless of who it is. If I were coaching you I would suggest that you write these down on a 3×5 card and keep them close by most all the time. I say this because of my own experience. What I mean by that is while these helpful hints below will work, they only work if you remember to use them.


Say this to the person:


  1. When I see or hear ________________________
  2. I feel ____________________________
  3. Because I need or want _______________________________
  4. I would like you to _____________________ or would you be willing to ____________________?


Yep… that is it. Some the best ideas in life come in small and simple packages. Shoot me a note after you try this and let me now it worked out for you.

Jeff Earlywine is a business consultant, corporate trainer and international speaker. He has worked with 300 different organizations over 30 years. His driving, disciplined approach to raising standards of excellence has earned him the nickname “The Bar Raiser!”

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